tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-62717273616677558942024-03-12T20:07:26.171-07:00NerdWriterGirlWriting challenges, story snippets, updates, book reviews, life in general.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.comBlogger165125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-44584431294708040552018-03-05T12:26:00.003-08:002018-03-05T12:26:59.492-08:00Monday Motivation- Get to Writing!<div style="-webkit-text-stroke-width: 0px; background-color: transparent; color: #3d596d; font-family: &quot; font-size: 16px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: 400; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 27.2px; margin-bottom: 24px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; orphans: 2; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; text-indent: 0px; text-transform: none; white-space: normal; word-spacing: 0px;">
"There comes a point in your life when you need to stop reading other people's books and write your own." ~~Albert Einstein</div>
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It's hard to argue with the genius, right? Although, I would still encourage plenty of reading. Writers have to read other fiction to learn styles and how stories are structured in their genre. Learn the common tropes.</div>
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And, don't just read fiction. Load your shelves with books about the writing craft and publishing.</div>
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You just have to balance time to write as well. Reading and self-study is great. You do have to eventually implement what you learn into your own writing. Trial and error. See what works for you and your style and what doesn't. It takes time and practice but it's worth it in the end.</div>
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If you have a story to tell, don't be afraid to tell it.</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-79343007368677800462018-03-04T18:47:00.001-08:002018-03-04T18:47:02.075-08:00This Blog is Not Dead<p dir="ltr">Hi everyone,<br>
Long time no chat. Hopping on here after a few months to give a quick life update and what's new for this platform.<br>
I am a married lady now. Yeah, can you believe it? August 19, 2017 I married my honey. The day was perfect. Our friends and family celebrated with us. Then we traveled to Toronto for a weeklong honeymoon. Life has settled into a routine with both of us working, I'm able to concentrate on writing more, and hope to have my book back in the world soon.</p>
<p dir="ltr">As for this blog. I'm continuing to post on <a href="http://nerdwritergirl.wordpress.com">Wordpress</a>. But, to expand my reach, I'm posting those same things here on a similar schedule. Mostly 3-4 times per week. I've really gotten into a nice routine so expect loads of content real soon.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Hard to write on my phone so I'll add more later. Bye!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-51648499617084109122017-05-08T06:25:00.001-07:002017-05-08T06:25:56.855-07:00My ONE Political PostI keep getting people asking me about my political opinions, especially with this new "so called" healthcare bill now making its way to the Senate. I made a promise that I would not talk about politics on my public platform. But, this once, I need to speak out. I'm going to tell you exactly what I think on various issues and then I will refrain from comment any further, except on my private social media.<br />
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I am a liberal-leaning Independent. I refuse to declare a party because I feel both sides have a lot of issues they need to figure out and the leadership has been less than impressive to say the least.<br />
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I understand we have a Constitutional right to gun ownership. I also believe, however, that there should be background checks and education about proper use. Parents should teach children that guns are not toys. They can do real harm. If you're going to take your kid to the shooting range, go for it. But, at home, keep the guns under lock and key and then hide the key. Or, make it so you can only access it with your fingerprint. SOMETHING so they don't get it and accidentally use it to hurt themselves or someone else. If you have a violent criminal record, your right to own a gun is thus forfeit. And, if you obtain one illegally, your ass goes back to jail.<br />
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I am anti-abortion. HOWEVER, I understand that there are medical situations in which you must choose between the mother's life and the child's. If there are complications in the pregnancy, and the doctor says there is a 95% chance the mother will die if something isn't done and the child will die no matter what, what would you do? I know this is a gut-wrenching decision and I pray no one ever has to go through that. But, it's a reality for some people out there. Not all women who get abortions do it because they're careless about their sex lives. It's not a clear cut issue and anyone who thinks otherwise is kidding themselves.<br />
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I believe in religious freedom for ALL. Christian, Jewish, Hindu, <i>Muslim</i>, Pagan, whatever. The early colonies were founded to escape religious persecution. If we took the time to educate ourselves on other faiths, we would learn to appreciate how beautiful they all are.<br />
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I am anti-wall. The United States is a nation of immigrants, from our earliest colonists to people today seeking a new life. If you don't want people coming in illegally, maybe give incentive to come in through the front door instead of sneaking in the window. Offer assistance for new people. English classes, job skill development, money management. Basic community college? Also, make it so they can't live off the system forever. Incentive to get a job.<br />
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I am pro-real affordable healthcare. 3 years ago, I had a severe health issue. I was hospitalized for 4 days and had to have 2 surgeries. Nearly ended up back in the hospital when I received my bill of $90,000!! How can anyone pay for that? Fortunately, insurance through work covered a majority but I'm still paying for an amount that equals more than my annual income. One of my medications, if I didn't have insurance, would be almost $5000/month! Do you know what I make as a grocery store cashier? About $850/month. Yet, this medicine helps keep my rheumatoid arthritis at bay so I can try and live a normal life. If I couldn't afford it, I'd be in pain all the time, lose my job, and then where would I be? We need a better system and what recently passed in our House of Representatives isn't the answer. It's the farthest thing from it.<br />
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Our education system needs to be improved. Better resources for teachers, that doesn't come from out of their pockets. Especially for mentally and physically disabled children. Increased awareness about the severe problem of bullying among our children. This is on the part of the parents, as well. Stop letting your kid act like a nasty little piece of shiz, making someone else's life miserable. Do you know the reason for many of the school shootings caused by students? Bullying. They were tormented every day, felt they had no support at school or at home, and in desperation, took a gun to school to seek revenge and end their misery.<br />
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And, last but not least, I am pro-LGBT. Same sex couples should marry. Gay people are born the way they are. It can't be "fixed." There is nothing wrong with them. They are just attracted to people in a different way than you are. It's not the work of the devil. They are in God's image like everyone else. People shouldn't be worried about the genitals of the person in the bathroom stall next to them. Transgender people are not perverts. Stop focusing on other people and worry about yourself.<br />
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I could go on but I have to actually work on my book before I have to go to day job. So, there you have it. A highlight of my political views. I'll shut up now.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-80965058710896307122017-03-08T05:16:00.002-08:002017-03-08T05:16:31.259-08:00Beauty and the Beast and the "gay agenda?" WTF?Okay, so I've been hearing all this controversy and uproar about the upcoming live action Beauty and the Beast movie. Comes out March 17. I, personally, am thrilled about it. The trailers look SO good. Emma Watson is the perfect Belle. But, let's get all up in arms because a minor character with maybe 10 minutes of screen time is gay.<br />
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Well, I'm about to unleash a rant of my own. Does it really have this much impact? LeFou will get 10 minutes screen time. This "gay moment" will maybe be him pining over Gaston. Someone on a YouTube video comment even said it is rumored to be 4 seconds of him dancing with another man. Really? So, I'm going to guess that every time I danced with my girl friends at a wedding or a party, we were making everyone around us gay? But, whatever it is, it won't be overly sexual because it is Disney. I highly doubt there will be a make-out scene or anything. Maybe they'll show him grieving over Gaston's end. (spoiler alert if you live on Pluto and never saw the animated original- Gaston dies in the end) And, yes, LeFou is the bumbling moron sidekick of the villain. Not the best representation. But, it's a start.<br />
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If a kid asks a question, don't have to go into a huge dissertation. Just say some boys like boys and girls like girls. Dunno why. That's just how God made them. Usually an acceptable answer. It's not some big gay agenda. It's a reflection of the world and all its beautiful diversity. You going to boycott Aladdin if they do a live version because the characters are Arab? ...wait, these people probably are.<br />
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And, I know what some people are thinking reading this. "You're a straight woman. How do you know the experiences of gay teens?" Yes, I am. But, I have friends in the LGBT community and they've told me of what they've gone through and dealt with at school, church, and from their own families. I watch the news and hear about the teens committing suicide because they feel they have no one to turn to for help and understanding. I see the stories about parents disowning their children, forcing them to go through horrid medical tortures to "remove the gay." It's disgusting.<br />
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If you truly want to "Make America Great Again" as Mr. 45 constantly claims, we need to remember that this country is a melting pot. People from all over the world, all different faiths, races, orientations, make up who we are as a nation. What message does it send to young people who are struggling to know who they are if they see hate? Not just from what they see online and in the media, but in their own homes? There are kids out there, if they aren't already, will struggle and question their sexuallity. And it's people's ignorance that contribute to the bullying and suicide rates among LGBT teens. They're raised to believe that the way they are is wrong and evil and something that should be ripped out of them.<br />
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I'm going to see Beauty and the Beast. Probably going to have a date night with my honey and go see it. I'll write up a review and let you know this whole issue is just ridiculous.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-71106556754845045862017-02-23T09:17:00.002-08:002017-02-23T09:17:18.500-08:00Keeping Father Dan's Memory AliveSo, yesterday was a sad but beautiful day. I had never seen the Church so full in my life. It was an incredible sight to see. I'd guess at least 800 people packed the space, not counting people who stood outside the doors to listen. Not just the number but the variety of people. Father Dan had been a part of several parishes over his years of ministry. Black, white, Asian, Middle Eastern, the very old to the very young. Priests, bishops, deacons, sisters. People who had grown up listening to Father preach on Sundays. People who had worked with him. People who had grown up with him. We gathered together to mourn his loss. But, more importantly, we gathered to celebrate a man who touched so many in so many ways. This was reflected in the music sang and the words spoken. Even after Mass, we gathered for lunch and shared more stories.<br />
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I didn't want to go up to the casket because I didn't want that image in my memory. I wanted to remember the man who always smiled and pulled you into a big hug when he saw you, even first meeting you. The man who's eyes lit up at the Christmas party when he played carols on his flute with the band. The man who talked and laughed at my sister's wedding and was bouncing with joy that he was able to make it and talked about it for months afterward.<br />
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But, it wasn't without issue. I won't go into specific but there were stories that were not so positive. And, it just made my family so upset. I know Father Dan wouldn't want people to act the way they did. It's not what he stood for. It's not the message he tried to convey and the fact that people never took that in is a disgrace to his memory.<br />
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Now, more than ever, is the time for the two communities he served most recently to come together. As one spirit, one mission to bring the love of Christ to the world. Not to turn people away. I said in my last post, Father accepted everyone. And, the people that gathered to honor him yesterday reflected that.<br />
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I know my dad and others will work to keep his memory alive there. And, I can only hope to follow his example in my own life. Only then will he be remembered always in the hearts of those who knew him.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-48503495127933764552017-02-19T21:38:00.000-08:002017-02-19T21:38:07.239-08:00"There's One More Angel In Heaven"I don't know why I chose a lyric from Joseph's Technicolor Dreamcoat but I'm have a feeling he'd get a kick out of it because he had that kind of sense of humor.<br />
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I can't sleep. And, the best way for me to clear my head is to write. What better topic to write about than remembering a wonderful man, priest, and friend. Father Dan Begin. He was the pastor at my dad's church and I had the pleasure of getting to know him these past 2 years since my dad joined him as deacon. Never have I known anyone like him. And, I doubt I'll ever meet anyone that comes close in my life.<br />
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Father Dan was truly the embodiment of Christian faith and love. He always had a smile on his face and a waiting hug. He loved to laugh. He loved music. He loved family, enough to adopt children and raise them as his own and the grandchildren that followed. He loved his parishioners at the various churches he served in. And, he loved God. He had a tremendous faith that we can only dream to emulate. Even when he was ill, he talked about leaving it in God's hands and whatever happened would happen. He cherished every day he was remotely well. When he was able to attend my sister's wedding in October, he was practically giddy with excitement. The power of prayer bought him a few precious months before illness returned to finally claim his life on Saturday.<br />
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He welcomed everyone, regardless of background, race, orientation. You just felt good when you were around him. He'd tease and crack jokes at events. When he said Mass, there was a glow about him. When he played the flute or talked about his family, his eyes would light up and you couldn't help smile along with him.<br />
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I wish I had been able to know him better. But, I know he's at peace now. He's not suffering anymore.<br />
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I know that's a cliché thing to say. It's what everyone says when someone dies. Especially from illness like cancer. But, I've had a few family members with cancer. It's like they're being eaten alive from the inside out. Watching a loved one waste away is one of the hardest things in the world. And, as much as you want them to get better and be with you for many more years, you want just as much for it to stop and for them to know peace and be free of pain.<br />
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It could be that it's late and I'm sleepy. Or, it's that there really are no words to describe Father Dan beyond what I've already said. He will be missed so much and by so many. And, he will never be forgotten.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-59536958007570094982017-02-13T21:05:00.000-08:002017-02-13T21:05:27.845-08:00Lost Art of Civil ConversationOkay, I know I made a promise not to post anything political on my public platforms. And, I intend to keep my promise. But, I have to vent. It's late so this may turn into a series of tangents with a point at the end. And, this isn't just about politics. It's about human behavior in general. There is a dying skill in this world. People are losing the ability to have civil conversations/debates about differences in belief. And, there's a strong urge to force the "I'm right, you're wrong" down the throat of whoever you're talking to by any means necessary. To the point that families are divided. Marriages and friendships are ending. What happened to giving your points, listening to the other, and then agreeing to disagree?<br />
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One of my closest friends just wrote an article for the Washington Examiner about all the recent boycotts. He is a diehard conservative Republican. While I am a liberal leaning Independent. We differ on a lot of views. But, we've been friends since we were 10 and not about to throw away a 20+ year friendship because we stand on "opposite sides of the aisle" so to speak. One thing we could agree on was how ridiculous the reaction to these boycotts are. Take the highly publicized Nordstrom boycott. Nordstrom announced that they are no longer carrying Ivanka Trump's brand in their stores due to lack of sales. But, people (including 45 himself) are enraged! Now, if Mr. Trump were as great a business man as he claimed, he would understand this and not take it personally. Why continue to stock something that doesn't sell? It's a loss on the business's part, especially in the price range of the items Nordstrom carries. (Far outside my budget, let me tell you.) But, it's common sense supply and demand. If the demand's not there, why take a financial hit with the supply? I see it all the time at my day job. A product doesn't sell, corporate says it has to go. Maybe they'll bring it back. Maybe they'll renegotiate and carry only a small portion of her line. That remains to be seen.<br />
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Another I keep seeing things about is the Starbucks debate. Starbucks announced that they will hire refugees that come to this country. Of course, people were up in arms about it. I saw a few of my own friends argue "why aren't they hiring veterans? What about our own people?" When, if you do some research, the coffee chain actually has a massive hiring program for vets. And, in terms of refugees, they said they'd begin by hiring those who worked as translators <i>for our military.</i><br />
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I'm afraid to say something at work for fear of someone going off on me. I get that enough without bringing politics into it. When someone tries to goad me into a debate/discussion, I smile and say I have no political views on the clock, and keep working. Same with friends who share political differences. Smile and nod and change the subject. Partly because I don't want to debate. Partly because I am no expert and would probably lose by not having a comeback. I can't even share something on Facebook without friends launching into longwinded arguments. I don't even want to share a meme meant to be a joke because someone will take it the wrong way. And that's been going on for years. But, that may be another rant someday.</div>
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The protest at UC Berkley- the speaker, a self proclaimed sh*t starter, was scheduled to speak. So, students came to protest. It started out peaceful until a group began shooting and throwing things and it turned insane. That was uncalled for. I don't agree with that that person talks about, but he had a right to be there. Just like those protesters did, provided it remained peaceful. Violence doesn't get us anywhere.</div>
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I just don't see why things have to be so polarizing nowadays. It's not getting us anywhere. If anything, it's further making things worse. I've accepted the fact that Donald Trump is President. I don't like it. I don't like him. I think he's a horrid excuse for a human. But, there's nothing I can do about it. I <i>will</i> be among the voices who speak out when he does something I disagree with and I think will harm this country. I won't do it on my author platform (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, Tumblr) with the exception of this blog post. If need be, I'll create a separate blog to share only on my personal Facebook page. I will do my best to live my life and be kind to others. I will be more informed and politely discuss the issues of today with others if I please. And, I will hope that this brutal divisiveness ends. We've had major views split this country several times in its history and we've come through each time. But, we never seem to learn. Or, we do for a while and quickly forget. What lesson is that for future generations? Having different views and beliefs is what makes the US the beautiful melting pot that it is. Why tarnish that now? If something's wrong, by all means speak out. But, you don't have to be violent about it. Discuss, debate (<i>peacefully</i>), and here's an idea. Compromise! Make things work so it's better for all.</div>
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Call me naïve. But, I'm still going to hold out a small bit of hope for the people in this country and the rest of the world. For the sake of future generations. If we ruin it now, what hope do they have?</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-82971913091159996532016-12-21T20:23:00.001-08:002016-12-21T20:29:12.280-08:00The Naughty List Tag<p dir="ltr">Happy holidays, everyone! I thought I'd have a little fun and do Jenna Moreci's Naughty List writing tag. Thought of doing a video but I don't have time to edit it and get it up before Christmas. Maybe next year.</p>
<p dir="ltr">There are 3 rules for this tag.<br>
1) You must use your current work in progress manuscript<br>
2) Don't use a character more than twice<br>
3) Provide a description of your story before the tag.</p>
<p dir="ltr">As I'm bouncing between 2 stories in the same series, I'm bending the rule slightly and using both if the questions apply. The first project is New Witch on Campus, the second book in my Witches of Coolersville series, currently editing. And I'm writing the 3rd book as yet untitled.<br>
New Witch on Campus takes place at the start of a new school year. Tara and Marissa head off to Continental College for their freshman year. But, it's not all easy. People are going missing and, when one of those people is someone the girls care about, they have to get help from some unlikely allies otherwise the world is screwed.<br>
My untitled story is right before Halloween and focuses on Marissa. Tara goes back home to visit her family. Marissa and Michael decide to take a bike ride in the park. When, suddenly, they're pulled into a fantasy realm that I haven't named yet. 😇 They have to find their way home. Marissa also has to hide the fact that she's a witch because magic is illegal and there's a kind of witch hunt hysteria going on.</p>
<p dir="ltr">So, let's get on with the tag!</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>1) Which character would get wasted and end up humping the Christmas tree?</i><br>
This has to be Henry, Tara’s boyfriend. While he isn't of age yet, he is in a band and they make a point of seeking out the places that don't card very well or not at all. He thinks this is a great idea and he's so cool. But, he becomes a bumbling ass hole when he drinks, especially when he drinks bourbon which is his favorite.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>2) Which character deserves to get the crap beaten out of them by Krampus?</i><br>
This is an easy one. Abigail Tillman. She makes her first of many appearances in New Witch and I already hate her. She's the daughter of a really rich man who basically runs half the town, and is on the college board of directors. She’s had everything handed to her and has become an entitled little snot bag. She has grown up with Marissa and Henry and it's her life's mission to make Marissa’s life hell. She needs a swift kick in the ass.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>3) Which character is the Grinch this year?</i><br>
I'm gonna go with Lord Boris Fitzpatrick. He is a high ranking noble and the King's brother in the unnamed realm in book 3. He's the one implementing all the laws against magic. And, people are not happy about it. He'd ban all festivities in the Kingdom if he could.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>4) Which character would try to get a little too friendly while sitting on Santa's lap?</i><br>
Definitely Lilia Moon. While she and her husband have a very loving and loyal relationship, it hasn't always been this way. When you're together for almost 200 years, things tend to head south once in a while. And, there have been times in the past where they've separated. And, Lilia is a woman with strong passions and urges that need to be satisfied. And, she did. Although, not without some consequences by spurned lovers when she reconciled with Darien.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>5) Who would your antagonist most like to tongue under the mistletoe?</i><br>
Well, I haven't gotten that far into book 3 for an antagonist. And the one in book 2 is complicated and psycho, so I'll have to say Darien Moon. Now, again, he worships his wife. But, he's also a nut job and a bit of an ass hole. So, I think he'd get a little bit too frisky with either Tara or Marissa, hell maybe even Gran, just to get under their skin and freak them out a bit and then go back to Lilia and laugh at their expense.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>6) Which character would accidentally tip the Menorah and light the house on fire?</i><br>
Not gonna lie, Tara. Yes, she's my MC for a lot of this series. And, she's becoming a powerful witch. But, she's also human. And she's always been incredibly clumsy. The girl trips over her own feet... a lot.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>7) Which character is most likely to </i><i>bring</i><i> magic brownies to the party?</i><br>
Gonna have to say the lead singer in Henry’s band. He's a trouble maker. Doesn't have a huge role yet in the series but he is mentioned in New Witch. He's the one who seeks out all the clubs that allow under age drinking. He smokes, and not always cigarettes. He'd probably bring them just for himself but then, once good and buzzed, he'd offer them to people.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>8) Which character is most likely to ring in the new year naked? And why the hell are they naked anyway?</i><br>
My first reuse of this tag. And, that would be Lilia and Darien Moon. Why? Because they'd spend the night screwing like bunnies. It's how they celebrate New Years... and their anniversary... and birthdays... And... You get the point.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>9) Which character is kidding themselves by insisting they belong on the nice list?</i><br>
I have to go with Abigail again. Because I really can't think of anyone else who would fit it. Sorry. I know. Cop out answer. But, it's true.</p>
<p dir="ltr"><i>10) Which character would your readers be shocked to find on the naught list?</i><br>
Gran. Yeah, she's a sweet old lady and everyone loves her. But, she was a hell raiser at one point in her youth. I haven't developed that story yet and I really want to write a story about it one day. But, I want to get more into the stories with Tara and Marissa first.</p>
<p dir="ltr">So, that's the Naughty List Tag. I'm going to tag Sandy Windham to do this on her blog. And, anyone else who wants to do it either on their blog, social media, or YouTube channel.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Hope everyone has a very happy holiday, whatever it is you celebrate. Here's to a fantastic 2017 and I'll post again soon.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Bye!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-7495852395576866692016-12-18T12:12:00.003-08:002016-12-18T12:12:33.359-08:00Advice For Last Minute Holiday Shoppers<span style="color: red;">Let's change up the color of the text to get a little festive. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">It's that time! </span><span style="color: red;">The week before Christmas. <span style="color: #274e13;">The time when people get together to celebrate the holidays with their family and friends.</span> A time to reflect on the past year and hope for better in the new.</span><br />
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<span style="color: red;">It is also a time that brings out the worst in people. <span style="color: #274e13;">I recently read a story about a woman in Tennessee who was beaten up by an older man because he was too impatient to wait for her to use her coupons.</span> He became very belligerent and then grabbed the woman by the hair and smacked her face against her cart. <span style="color: #274e13;">He then took off without his groceries.</span> So, really, it was his loss.</span><br />
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<span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #274e13;">I know there's a week left before the holidays.</span> I know tensions are high. <span style="color: #274e13;">But, that's no reason to get nasty with other people.</span> Also, the weather is crap. <span style="color: #274e13;">At least where I live.</span> So, that brings out the worst in people on the road. <span style="color: #274e13;">My fiancé and I made a stop near the mall on the way to his work party and people were just being really stupid.</span> It was rainy and there was one car zipping through traffic <em>without headlights on! <span style="color: #274e13;">What even!</span></em> That's just asking for trouble. <span style="color: #274e13;">So, here are some tips if you still have to go out and shop for the coming festivities.</span> Then, things won't be so stressful and you'll be able to enjoy the holidays without any problems.</span><br />
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<li><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #274e13;">Plan accordingly.</span> This means for the weather and the crowds. <span style="color: #274e13;">And, the week before Christmas, there will be plenty of crowds.</span> If the weather is slick, leave a little earlier to get to your destination. <span style="color: #274e13;">Be careful on the road and drive at a safe pace.</span> Not all cities are the greatest when it comes to keeping up with plowing their roads so just keep that in mind while driving. <span style="color: #274e13;">When you get to your shopping destination, be prepared to walk for a while.</span> The malls and shopping centers will likely be packed so finding that prime spot near the door probably won't happen.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #274e13;">Make it fun and go with a group.</span> If you have a few friends or family members who are also last minute, make a day of it. <span style="color: #274e13;">Meet up or car pool to the mall together.</span> They can give you ideas if you're stuck on something for someone on your list. <span style="color: #274e13;">Also, I find shopping with a group is fun anyway.</span> Especially if it's someone you don't get to see very often.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: red;"><span style="color: #274e13;">Be patient.</span> I've mentioned this in last year's holiday rant. <span style="color: #274e13;">Many stores, especially small places in the mall, have limits on how many people can work.</span> Only so many registers and some workers become crowd control so no one gets stupid or tries to steal stuff. <span style="color: #274e13;">If they have employees under 18, there are limits on the number of hours they can work.</span> </span><span style="color: red;">There is no control over what they stock or when it's delivered. <span style="color: #274e13;">There's a reason people start shopping in September.</span> They know they can get stuff. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">But, if you really have to go last minute, be prepared to have a plan B item for your list.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: red;">Maybe wait til after Christmas. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">If there are people on your gift list you're not going to see until after New Year, for example, maybe don't worry about them until after Christmas. </span><span style="color: red;">Take care of who you know you're going to see Christmas Eve or Christmas Day or Hanukah, and then save up your funds again for afterward. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">You might find a bargain on those gifts, too, because there are some great post-holiday sales during this time. </span><span style="color: red;">Your friends will never know.</span></li>
<li><span style="color: #274e13;">When in doubt, gift cards. </span><span style="color: red;">Some people are ridiculously hard to buy for. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">So, find a gift card to a store or restaurant they like and, boom, present! </span><span style="color: red;">Some may argue this is a copout method but I disagree. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">My future father-in-law is impossible to buy for. </span><span style="color: red;">But, I know he loves Bob Evans. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">So, I give him $25 for Bob Evans and he's a happy camper. </span><span style="color: red;">I'm asking for gift cards myself this year. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">Trying to save for the wedding but I am in dire need of some new clothes. </span><span style="color: red;">So, I asked for gift cards so I can go shopping for some cute clothes for events coming up in 2017, like my bridal shower.</span></li>
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<span style="color: #274e13;">So, those are a few tips to keep your sanity and holiday spirit in the coming days. </span><span style="color: red;">I hope everyone is safe and happy during this time of celebration. </span><span style="color: #274e13;">Whatever holiday you celebrate, let it be a blessed one with family and friends. </span><span style="color: red;">And here's to 2017 being the best year yet.</span><br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-69649743785072702542016-11-22T17:17:00.000-08:002016-11-22T17:17:49.960-08:00Author Interview- Sandy Windham, Pink Tourmaline<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 0pt; vertical-align: baseline;">
<b><span style="border-image: none; border: 1pt windowtext; color: #666666; font-size: 13.5pt; padding: 0in;"><span style="color: black;">😊😊😊I had the privilege to interview my friend, and fellow debut author, Sandy Windham about her book, <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Pink-Tourmaline-Sandy-Windham-ebook/dp/B01M025J2J/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1479862737&sr=1-1&keywords=pink+tourmaline" target="_blank">Pink Tourmaline</a>. It is going to be released December 5! So exciting. Sandy has been a friend and my critique partner for just over 3 years now. We met on the NaNoWriMo pen pal forums and have worked to support each other in our dreams to be writers.</span></span></b></div>
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<b><span style="border-image: none; border: 1pt windowtext; color: #666666; font-size: 13.5pt; padding: 0in;">1) Tell us a little about your book: </span></b><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">It’s part historical romance, part time-travel caper. The story is about Quinn and her brother Michael who get stuck in the Los Angeles of the 1920s. To get home they have to track down their great-grandmother who’s spell landed them there in the first place. Except once they start looking for her, they discover everything they thought they knew about their family’s history is wrong. As if that’s not enough Quinn then falls in love with Rafael, a 1920s-movie star who helps them in their search.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">The last book I finished is Love is Death – The Afterdeath Book 1 by L.P Masters which was great. The Japanese Lover by Isabelle Allende was good too and I’m looking forward to reading the third installment of Witches of Coolersville! <span></span></span></div>
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<b><span style="border-image: none; border: 1pt windowtext; color: #666666; font-size: 13.5pt; padding: 0in;">6) What sort of research did you do to write this book?</span></b><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"> I am very interested in crystals and the supernatural in general so I used a lot of books and material I already had. I also love the 1920s and silent films in particular so I read and watched biographies of movie stars from that time. I also researched life in the 20s in general and in Los Angeles in particular.<span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">It was a long road. I published a few poems and a short story before this but I didn’t have any luck with either of my two previous stories. The first one got nothing but rejections. The second generated a bit of interest from agents, but not much and it went nowhere. The Pink Tourmaline got several requests from agents and editors. In the end it didn’t land an agent and I was about to give up when I realized I could submit to small publishers without an agent. I went that route, got a few requests and eventually I got an offer from The Wild Rose Press.</span><span alt="🙂" id="m_-6668883237643353026gmail-AutoShape_x0020_1" style="height: 24pt; width: 24pt;"> <span><span type="none"><span></span></span></span></span><span id="m_-6668883237643353026gmail-_x0000_t75"> <span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span><span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span></span> <span><span></span></span></span></span><span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><span></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;">Understand how difficult and complex the publishing industry is. Just because you do not get an offer or you get rejected doesn’t mean your novel is not good. Fortunately, there are so many ways to get published these days. Many great books I’ve read recently were self-published. So don’t give up!</span></div>
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<span style="color: #666666; font-family: "times new roman",serif; font-size: 13.5pt;"><span style="color: black;">Special thanks to Sandy for answering these questions! Keep an eye out for her book when it's out on December 5. You can <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Pink-Tourmaline-Sandy-Windham-ebook/dp/B01M025J2J/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1479862737&sr=1-1&keywords=pink+tourmaline" target="_blank">pre-order the Kindle version</a> now and print will be available on release day. I'm certainly adding it to my list. ^_^</span></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-65662201544092039932016-11-10T06:31:00.001-08:002016-11-10T07:23:13.174-08:00Letter to Mr. Trump from a concerned citizen<p dir="ltr">To Mr. Trump (you're not sworn in yet so I will not call you President)</p>
<p dir="ltr">I confess, I am not a solid follower of politics. My job has all over the place hours and I have other obligations. But, what I did see and read of your speeches and your devoted followers at your rallies scared me.</p>
<p dir="ltr">The videos I've seen of your supporters spewing slurs, racial or otherwise, make me want to flee to Australia.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I am not saying all your supporters acted that way. I have plenty of close friends and family members who voted for you and they are kind and accepting people. So, it's not fair to generalize. These are the ones who made viral videos. And, I am hoping it's a very small minority.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Also, in all these speeches and in the debates, I didn't hear a single thing about your policy. Aside from building a wall and running on the fact that you are supposedly better than Mrs. Clinton, what exactly is your policy? (Also, the wall is a damn stupid idea but I'll get into that in a bit)</p>
<p dir="ltr">Now, here are my concerns. I am a 32 year old woman about to get married in 2017. I have an autoimmune form of arthritis that requires some very expensive medication as treatment and a lot of doctor visits. So, what are you going to do about Healthcare? I know you are anti-Obamacare. But, instead of completely repealing it, why not get Congress to improve upon it? You do realize that before people could get medical insurance with this program, there were people who had to choose between food for their children and medications, right? How about doing something so people do not have to pay thousands of dollars for medicine? Or, heaven forbid they actually have to go to the hospital. I had to spend 4 days in the ICU and my initial bill before my work insurance kicked in was $95,000! That may be chump change for a billionaire but I make about 1/10th of that per year. If you do feel the need to repeal it, you better have a damn good alternative.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Also, there is this thing called the First Amendment. I'll leave it right here.<br>
<i>"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances"</i><br>
Do you know what that means? No closing mosques, no suppression of the press if they disagree with you or call you an orange pressure cooker, people are allowed to protest, and we can write blog posts like this! You should probably <i>actually</i> read the Constitution as it lays out all the things the President can and cannot do. You can't do whatever you want. Reality check, Mister.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I am a Catholic Christian. But, I was raised and firmly believe in accepting and learning from all cultures and religions. Not all Muslims are terrorists. Islam is a beautiful and peaceful faith. When I was briefly in college, I had a class with a young man who was Muslim and he was heartbroken that there was this stereotype because of a fringe group of crazies.</p>
<p dir="ltr">College! Another point. I was in and out of community college before completely stopping. Again, you wouldn't know having that silver spoon and all, but it is hard for the average 18 year old to go to college. They usually have to be submerged in years of debt just for tuition. Not including books, which are ungodly high. $100 or more for something you're going to need for a single semester and then the next edition comes out, 2 sentences are rephrased and you're stuck. I would love to go back to school for a degree. But, I also want to have a family and I want to be able to feed and educate them.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Your comments (alleged or not) about minorities and women are unacceptable. I know what it is like to be bullied. I was bullied in school and came home more days than I can count in tears, wanting to die. My best friend had to move across the country to escape being bullied because he is gay. I have a transgender friend who could had to cut ties with their family because they couldn't accept them. The division your campaign has caused is deeper than you probably realize. I know in your acceptance speech you talk of bringing the country together but it was YOUR campaign and YOUR followers who made this behavior okay. I am able to combat the insults and shame when directed toward me. But, what about my children when I have them? What about my niece, who is a beautiful and intelligent girl but she's also painfully shy and when kids torment her she just absorbs it. What about the man in the grocery store on food stamps and people give him dirty looks and call him a freeloader but they don't get to know him and learn he served his country in our great military and suffers debilitating PTSD from the things he saw and did and can't work because certain things trigger an anxiety attack.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I briefly mentioned your stupid wall plan and since I'm almost done I'll talk about that for a bit. Why not encourage people to come through the legal way? My ancestors came to this country 100+ years ago to seek a better life. That has not changed. America has always been the land of opportunity. <i>"Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door!"</i> So, work with Congress to improve our policies! Don't just shut everything down.</p>
<p dir="ltr">So, that is all I have to ask for now. If you have answers to my questions, please do not hesitate to email me. Careyann2017@gmail.com And, I want an actual explanation. Not a link to a website. You are now accountable to the American people. And, if you try to put a toe out of line, you will have millions of people ready to call you out.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Sincerely, a concerned citizen.</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-38201848877233256592016-10-29T06:24:00.001-07:002016-10-29T06:24:21.969-07:00NaNoWriMo 2016I'm doing NaNoWriMo this year again! I am so excited about it. I'm going to be getting ready for the kick-off party for my region when I finish this post.<br />
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My project this year will be, at least, book 3 for my "Witches of Coolersville" series. I'm struggling to outline so I'm going to try and get as much out as possible and then revise like crazy. And, I'd also like to get the 4th book started. If I can at least use these 2 projects to meet the word count, that will count as something. And then, I can focus on finishing the story and then I just have to focus on editing over the coming year. I think that will be easier to work on while wedding planning in 2017.<br />
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Check out my YouTube channel. I'll be putting up videos throughout the month and then I'll have a special video in early December.<br />
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That's all for now. Bye!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-38321911675510080552016-09-30T20:37:00.001-07:002016-09-30T20:37:45.154-07:00Top 11 Tips for NaNoWriMo Success<p dir="ltr">Hi everyone,</p>
<p dir="ltr">It's that time of year again. No, not Halloween. It's NaNoWriMo prep month! For those who don't know, NaNoWriMo is short for National Novel Writing Month. Every November, writers from all over the world see if they can write a 50,000 word first draft of a novel in 30 days. This will be my 4th time participating and, I hope, my 4th victory. If you would like to join in, here are 11 tips for NaNoWriMo success.</p>
<p dir="ltr">1) Manage your time- We all have busy lives. Not everyone can be a full-time writer. So, find even an hour in your schedule to write. It may mean getting up earlier. It may mean not binging on that show you've watched 30 times on Netflix. Try to find a time each day to make <i>your time to write</i> and only write.</p>
<p dir="ltr">2) Stay Hydrated- Coffee is the beverage of the gods. It's what fuels all that wonderful writer mojo. But, you still have to drink water. Getting dehydrated can make you seriously ill and then you won't be able to get out of bed, let alone write.</p>
<p dir="ltr">3) Get involved in the community- the forum on the NaNoWriMo website is fantastic. You can do writing sprints, find pen pals, share ideas, or vent about being stuck on something. There is also the official NaNoWriMo Facebook group as well as your region may have one as well. Go to write-ins hosted by your region through NaNoWriMo or other writing groups. It is so much fun. Having other writers helps so much because you're cheering each other on. Also, if you do want to seek being a professional writer, networking is so important to your career. Then, you can find critique partners and beta readers. You can share experiences and people can help you out.</p>
<p dir="ltr">4) Sleep- It is a common misconception that you only have to sleep 3 hours a night. You still have to get plenty of sleep so your brain is able to function and create that wonderful story.</p>
<p dir="ltr">5) Don't stress over the word count-  50K in 30 days seems like a lot. But, it breaks down to about 1667 per day. That's not much. The Harry Potter series is 1,084,170 words. Sorcerer's Stone alone is 76,994. If JK Rowling averaged that over 30 days, it would be about 2567 words per day. You can definitely pull it off.<br>
Also, 50,000 words is an arbitrary number. The goal is to develop the habit of writing every day. Not just for November. Whether it's 1667 words per day, 500 words, or 5,000. Any amount is more than you had the day before.</p>
<p dir="ltr">6) Quantity over quality- This is the first draft of your novel. In a month. And, if you're focusing on that end word count, it's definitely quantity over quality. Write down anything you can relating to your story. Dialogue, back story, any details. What doesn't stay during revision can be saved for your notes. Especially if it's a series. Continuity is key. So, keep notes on character profiles and world building in a separate notebook.</p>
<p dir="ltr">7) Be passionate about your story- If you're passionate about something, whether it's painting, photography, cooking, writing those things probably fill your thoughts all day and you're constantly working and improving. This is key to success. If you love and are passionate about your story, it will reflect in your writing style and readers will enjoy it all the more. And, at some point, you will hit a rough patch and you'll start to lose motivation and wonder "What was I thinking?" So, you have to keep in mind why you're doing this. If it's because you're dreaming about this story you've had for years, then focus on that to keep going in those tough times and you can get through anything.</p>
<p dir="ltr">8) Get ahead when you can- Life happens. Your car breaks down. You need OT at work. You're swamped with homework. Whatever. So, don't just stop at 1667. If you have a writing day where you're on a roll, just keep going. Then, you're ahead of the game and not stressing about your words of something prevents you from writing for a day.</p>
<p dir="ltr">9) Minimize distractions- Turn off the Netflix, turn off the YouTube, turn off the social media. These things take away from writing time. What I do is I take the laptop onto the bedroom, turn off the WiFi, set up my iTunes playlists, and write until my hands ache. I'm not one that can focus in complete silence. But, if I have Internet, chances are I'll be looking at Doctor Who parody videos or talking online instead of writing. And, that won't help me get work done at all.</p>
<p dir="ltr">10) It’s okay if you don't hit 50K- Like I said, life happens. 50K is arbitrary. If you still think it's overwhelming, especially first timers, shoot for 30,000 or just 10,000. It's still more than you had at the beginning of the month and helps you get into that every day habit of writing.</p>
<p dir="ltr">11) BACK UP YOUR WORK- Computers will crash. Flash drives get lost or fail. So, it's key to back up your work in multiple places. I have my story on the laptop, flash drive, Dropbox, Google Docs, and I email it to my phone. Over kill? Not at all. Because I've lost a story before. And, it <i>sucked.</i> All that work just gone. So, save constantly and back up your work so this doesn't happen to you.<br></p>
<p dir="ltr">That's all from me today. Witches of Coolersville is available on Amazon in paperback and ebook. You can also order a signed copy on my Etsy shop. Enter TUMBLR16 until October 23 for 30% off. Good luck to anyone participating in NaNoWriMo this year. And, I'll have another post soon.</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-89320783460829368392016-09-20T18:53:00.001-07:002016-09-20T18:53:07.574-07:00Sept. 20 Update<p dir="ltr">Up to chapter 17! My poor arthritic hands. But, I'm getting there. If I can do 3 chapters before my physical therapy tomorrow, I'll be in the home stretch. Did a rough formatting and at chapter 16 I'm around 115 pages for a 6x9 book. 23 chapters total so this one will be a little longer than book 1. That's okay. There's more to this story. Character development, big bad guy, intro to a few side characters that will appear further down the series. I'm also slowly printing this draft off so I can go at it yet again with the red pen. If I can get another round of Beta Readers for this draft, I can send draft 4 to the editor for the major fixes.</p>
<p dir="ltr">Won't be home after PT tomorrow so I'm bringing my notes for book 3 and beyond to maybe play with and brainstorm. If I get enough ideas set up that I can just write, I'll maybe start the planning stages of a bind-up edition. Either 3 or 5 stories, haven't decided which. May depend on length. I may go through Book Baby for that one so I can get a hard cover and wider distribution. I'll stick with CreateSpace for the novella sizes.</p>
<p dir="ltr">These are all just rough ideas. Gonna read for a bit then need sleep.<br>
Good night all!</p>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-51738410197689291422016-09-19T08:36:00.001-07:002016-09-19T08:36:45.662-07:00The Math Teacher From Hell- "New Witch on Campus" 3rd draft excerpt
I haven't posted any excerpts in a while and I just added this scene to my story. This is Dr. Benedict. He is Tara's math professor and he's terrible. This won't be touched upon much in this story but, down the line, I'm planning on making it a plot point. Let me know what you think.<br />
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was a tall, lanky man with a nasally, but monotone voice. Not the kind of tone
you need to keep a student’s interest in math at 8:00 in the morning. But, he
seemed either not to notice or not to care that half the class was beginning to
doze before he finished his introduction to the syllabus. Tara and Michael
managed to stay awake by slipping notes to each other. And, their shock at the
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Or, more accurately, a refresher course of what you were too stupid to pay
attention to in high school.” A few heads jerked up at this and students
whispered to each other until Dr. Benedict took a ruler and smacked the podium
with it, shocking the class back into silence. “I don’t dick around. I don’t
tolerate talking. If you can’t keep up, there’s the tutoring center or you may
as well leave now and drop the class. I move fast. You have 16 weeks to learn
this shit and move on to the next level of actual college level math. If you’re
not on time, you fail the day. I lock the door when I enter. You miss the
lecture, tough shit. Everything’s laid out on the syllabus what we’re covering
each day. You’ll just have to figure it out yourself if you expect to pass my
class. Your cell phones will be
silenced or turned off. If I see it out, you will be asked to leave and you’ll
not be marked for a whole week. You’re that stupid and need a calculator, go
buy one. Don’t use your phone. I’ll just assume you’re texting or on Facebook.
Now, open your packets to page 1 and we’ll go over my rules and the curriculum
for this semester.”</span></em>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-38183073337351516452016-09-10T08:15:00.000-07:002016-09-10T08:15:50.475-07:00September 10 UpdateI’m so behind! *sob* If I wasn’t in pain all the time, I’d have book 2 edited, retyped, and sent off to the editor and book 3 at least mostly outlined and maybe partly written. But, nope. Pain and exhaustion was making it next to impossible to keep up with my writing. My alarm goes off at 5 a.m. and I glare at it for about 3 minutes before shutting it off and going back to bed for a few more hours and I’m still exhausted.<br />
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But, I have to get going on this. So, I’m laying out my goals to the end of the month. Starting today, I’m just diving into writing the third book. I’ll just word vomit and then worry about editing it later. It’s how I wrote a majority of book 1 anyway so it does, sometimes, work. I’ve tried to plan it out a few times but every time I’ve made the storyline insanely and unnecessarily complicated and that makes the writing part really hard because I look at my notes and think “What the hell kind of drugs am I on?”<br />
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So, this week, since I don’t have that many day job hours, I’m going to focus on word vomiting book 3 as much as I can. If I can get an average of 1500 words a day, or at least a chapter, I can get a majority of the story done before the end of the month. The main goal for this is to get this idea out of my head before I go back and edit book 2. Because the ideas for future books are distracting me and I have to get it out of my head. I think retyping book 2 will be a relatively quick process I can work on in October and send it off to the editor at last.<br />
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I’m also looking into saving for a professional cover design service I saw on another writer’s vlog. If I can redo the cover for book 1 and then have a fancy-dancy matching cover for book 2 and beyond, I’ll be very happy. I’m sure I’m not the only one who shares this opinion. I like when series covers coordinate. If nothing else, it looks pretty on the shelf.<br />
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So, since it’s September 9, and I’m almost done with chapter 1, I should be at chapter 21 by the end of the month. Which, if I follow the trend of my other books, it would be an almost complete manuscript. Now, I could do 2 or 3 chapters on off days. So, I may finish this very, <em>very</em> rough draft this month. I plan on taking the first weekend of October of because I will be busy celebrating my sister getting married to her long-time honey. Once all the lovey-dovey happiness and celebrating is done, then it’s back to work. And, hopefully, I’ll be back at book 2 so I can finally get it to my editor.<br />
I also have a very special announcement! I’m offering a coupon code on my Etsy shop! Get 30% off my book at <a href="http://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.etsy.com%2Fshop%2FWoCBooks&t=MmFiNjg0MzEzZDA3ODNjZDI3OTMzYWVkYjRiYmI3YWVmMTA5ZDUwNixnazQ0RHVzbg%3D%3D" target="_blank">https://www.etsy.com/shop/WoCBooks</a> when you enter the code Tumblr16 (because this was originally written on my Tumblr Blog). The code expires October 23 which is 7 months to the day I first published my novella. I do ship internationally. And, thanks to the Etsy Seller app, I’ll know right when I get an order and then I can send it off to you! I have 20 copies available currently in my home stock. If you want the ebook, here’s the Amazon link. (<a href="http://t.umblr.com/redirect?z=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FWitches-Coolersville-Book-ebook%2Fdp%2FB01D81RJ0Q%2Fref%3Dsr_1_fkmr0_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26qid%3D1473472998%26sr%3D8-1-fkmr0%26keywords%3Dwitches+of+coolersville&t=OGNiZjdkNjU0MTc4NTdkNDM2YTBkYzE2NTRhOWE3MTliNmYwY2VkZSxnazQ0RHVzbg%3D%3D" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Witches-Coolersville-Book-ebook/dp/B01D81RJ0Q/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1473472998&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=witches+of+coolersville</a>) Paperback is also available on Amazon but I sign the ones sold on my Etsy shop.<br />
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If I get through all this and get book 2 to the editor, I’ll have a better idea when the book will be released. Aiming for early 2017. Exactly when is yet to be determined.<br />
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So, that’s it for now. I’m going to try and finish this chapter and then hit the sack. I work tomorrow evening so plenty of writing time beforehand. Maybe tomorrow will be a two chapter day. Who knows!<br />
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Have a great night. Thanks for reading and following and don’t forget to check out the links to my book!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-66355023767323605612016-08-27T09:08:00.001-07:002016-08-27T10:05:35.452-07:00Book 2 Update 8-27-16<p dir="ltr">Finished the edits on my second dtaft! Now all I have to do is get it all in the computer. I'll work on that this week. If I don't get anymore Beta readers, I'll do one more draft and then send it off to the editor. I've had 6 people read my manuscript. I'll give it a few more weeks and then start working with the editor.</p>
<p dir="ltr">And, OMG, I'm going to need an editor. I'm catching the most stupid typos. Switched letters in a word. Whole sentences that I can tell I wrote at 2 a.m. because they make no sense whatsoever! And, I know I'm missing more. As I go through and I realize people are reading it, the self doubt is creeping up on me! I didn't have this with my first one! Now, I guess, the pressure is increased because it's a sequel? It's been insane. I read and go over the draft and just cringe. And, the plot holes. OH, THE PLOT HOLES!</p>
<p dir="ltr">The goal of this draft is to beef it up a little more. I'm getting ideas for further on in the series and I want to set some of it up in this book. Whether it's the next book or 6 down the line.</p>
<p dir="ltr">I have to get some food because I have to work today. But, I'm off tomorrow so lots of writing!<br>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-53928472934074710712016-08-14T09:04:00.001-07:002016-08-14T09:04:39.590-07:00Book 2 UpdateHi everyone!<br />
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Just wanted to post a quick update on how my Witches of Coolersville sequel is coming along. I'm editing the second draft with some Beta Feedback and looking for more to help me out. (See prior post for all the requirements) I'm also going to check out the NaNoWriMo forums to see if anyone would be interested.<br />
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I'm on vacation this week from my day job so I'll be able to do a LOT more work. I've also been reading more craft books and marketing books to continue to get the word out about my book. That's been a big help and I'm excited to start implementing some of the ideas I read about.<br />
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One thing I'm planning on is a guest blog post with my friend, Sandy. She's been working with a small press for her debut novel we're going to post on each others' blogs, not only to talk about our books but to share our different experiences in publishing. She said she's got another round of editing this week and then she should know a release date shortly after that.<br />
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Sandy is a lovely lady. We met through a pen-pal forum on the NaNoWriMo website. She's been my critique partner for both books. She sent me a draft of her book but that was right around when my computer decided to die on me so I couldn't read it. I'm so excited that she's been able to find a publisher.<br />
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I'll have more updates as the time gets closer.<br />
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Bye!<br />
CareyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-16172625459313823422016-08-01T06:08:00.001-07:002016-08-01T06:08:58.233-07:00Beta Reader Requirements<span style="font-family: inherit;">Hi all!</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">A while back, I announced that I was looking for another round of Beta Readers for my second book in the Witches of Coolersville series. If you're interested, check out the list of requirements below and then </span><a href="mailto:nerdwritergirl1984@gmail.com" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: inherit;">send me an email</span></a><span style="font-family: inherit;">.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">1) Readers must be 16 or older- My book is "New Adult" which means my main characters are over 18 years old and in college. There is also violence and swearing throughout the book, more-so than the first one so I figured 16 would be a good minimum age. Guys as well as girls are welcome.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">2) Must be willing to answer <em>a lot</em> of questions- Remember all those reading assignments you used to do in school? This is kinda like that, except actually fun! In order to get the proper feedback to improve my manuscript I have questions at the start and end of the book as well as after every single chapter.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">3) When answering these questions, please be honest and thorough- Be as honest as you can. I know the easy thing to do would be nice but think of it this way. If you tell me now what I need to fix, I won’t get burned by reviewers when my book is published. And, it’ll help my book sell better once it is published.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">4) It’s a second draft- I
did some editing but the story has yet to be professionally edited to weed out
the big mistakes. There will probably be some errors in grammar and spelling
that I missed. Please ignore for now. Your feedback is content-related only.
I’ll fix everything in another round of editing along with the professional.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">5) <!--[endif]-->If you see a question and your initial thought
is <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">I have no idea what to write</i>, tell
me- It’s okay not to have an opinion or just say “I don’t know.” Depending on
the question being asked, it helps me as a writer to see where things fall flat
or fail to make a solid impression. I understand the questions are repetitive so if there's nothing to add, let me know. Also, let me know if something does fall flat for you. A character doesn't connect, a part is boring or confusing. I still have time to fix these things.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">6) When possible, give as much detail as you can-
That’s what’s nice about this format. You have unlimited space to tell me right in the document. If
you have any observations outside the questions given, feel free to tell me!
All feedback is useful.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">7) Be as timely as possible- I know everyone has
busy lives. Work, family, school, etc. So, don’t feel like you need to get this
back next week. But, I do want to get this to my editor soon, so don’t take 5
years to read it either. I'd like all feedback emailed back to me by October 1.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">8) Please don’t steal my book. Also, please don’t
share with anyone without my permission.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">9) Triggers- A few things I should warn you about. There is
swearing and violence in this book. There is mention of emotional abuse in a
relationship as well as physical assault and underage drinking. I tried to keep
it mild but if any of this is going to make you uncomfortable, apply to beta read.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Thanks! Hope to hear from you all soon!</span><br />
Carey<br />
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Read book 1 first 3 chapters <a href="http://carey-ann-author.vpweb.com/" target="_blank">on my web site</a><br />
Buy it on <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Witches-Coolersville-Book/dp/1505607566/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1470056871&sr=8-1&keywords=carey+starkey" target="_blank">Amazon</a><br />
Buy it on <a href="https://www.etsy.com/shop/wocbooks" target="_blank">my Etsy shop</a>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-68010884151796980332016-07-15T11:03:00.000-07:002016-07-15T11:03:37.190-07:00Beta Readers Wanted<div data-contents="true">
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<span data-offset-key="fkjfh-0-0"><span data-text="true">I'll be emailing you the second draft of my book with questions at the end of every chapter for you to answer. You will have a set time (to be determined) to read and fill out the questions and email it back to me. This draft is not professionally edited yet. I'm just looking for feedback on the story itself. Plot holes, inconsitencies, anything confusing, overall entertainment value.</span></span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-71574756745791437732016-07-09T06:37:00.000-07:002016-07-09T06:37:00.943-07:00Writing TagI saw this on Jenna Moreci's YouTube page. I plan on filming a collab with by friend, Lisa, but for fun I'm answering the questions by myself here.<br />
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<b>1. A crazy hacker’s gone into your computer, and has deleted all of your music, except for one song off of your writing playlist. Which song is it?</b><br />
Well, this wouldn't be an issue. I don't have a writing playlist right now outside my Pandora stations. So, that's not an issue.<br />
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<b>2. Your protagonist and antagonist have been paired up by friends to go out to lunch together. Where do they go?</b><br />
Yeah... I don't know how this would go. And, I don't want to talk too much about my book 1 protagonist because it's slowly revealed throughout the books and I don't want to give it away. I'll just say Tara would just end up being uncomfortable for a while. Book 2, there would be a fight. Book 3, one of my antagonists is this crazy billionaire running for mayor. He would pick a classic diner or steakhouse and they would just end up fighting the whole time.<br />
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<strong>3. You’re crossing a bridge when the troll living under it stops you. He demands to read a chapter from your novel, and won’t let you cross otherwise. Which chapter do you give him?</strong><br />
Chapter 6 is a very short chapter with an awesome dream scene. I had so much fun writing this one. Chapter 9 is a cute little date scene before the main issue arises. Then, there's chapter 20 with a big fight scene if the troll likes violence.<br />
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<b>4. Your friends have invited you out to a party. Surprise! All of your characters are there. Who do you choose to hang out with?</b><br />
This would be so fun! Yes!! Especially in book 1, I love all the characters. I'd probably sit with Gran and listen to her stories.<br />
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<b>5. Crap. You left your car keys in your house, and you’ve (somehow) locked yourself out. Which of your characters picks the lock for you?</b><br />
Darien. He's crafty and a little shady. He'd help me out with the expectation I'll repay him someday that he chooses. And, he'll also mock me for years to come until we're even.<br />
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<b>6. The zombie apocalypse is happening right now. (It sucks.) Everyone is fleeing the planet, and moving to Mars. ONE of your characters can go with you. Who do you choose?</b><br />
Hmm. As much as I'd hate to separate these two, I'd bring Lilia. She's tough and resourceful and super powerful and badass. Although, she'd probably work her way into a position of power and become queen of the planet.<br />
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<b>7. You’ve been given the opportunity to travel to one place (town, building, landmark, country) in your book. Where do you go?</b><br />
Hmm, well, since I never went to a "real college," I'd want to check out Continental College. The setting appears in book 2 of the series. It's a fairly large campus without being overwhelming. And then, just outside campus is a line of bars and clubs and shops to hang out at. It's just a cute little setting.<br />
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<b>8. You meet your main character and start a conversation with them. Problem is, you’ve only got six words or less to do so. What do you say?</b><br />
This is to start a conversation, right? So, I can use more later? Well, I'd probably say something like, "Have you read the Scarlet Trilogy?" Tara's a bookworm. So, I'd mention my favorite book series and watch her eyes light up as she talks about her passion.<br />
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<b>9. Crazy acid rain is falling from the sky. Which of your characters would you use as an umbrella?</b><br />
Easy, Abigail Tillman. She's a character in my 3rd book I'm currently working on. And, OMG, I already hate her. She's a snotty little rich girl. She is a party girl but her father is so stupid and absorbed in his own stuff that he thinks she's completely innocent and she's got him wrapped around her pinky. All she has to do is turn on the waterworks and she gets whatever she wants from him. And, when people refuse to put up with her shit, she gets Daddy involved to ruin their lives. Think a female Draco Malfoy.<br />
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<b>10. You’re out at a restaurant with your main character, and the time has come to order dessert. What do you order for them?</b><br />
Chocolate. Like me, Tara's a choco-holic. So, we'd probably order a molten brownie or something full of chocolaty goodness.<br />
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That's the writing tag! Whoever wants to do it next, feel free and I'll have another post soon. Bye!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-12291927352573950342016-06-15T19:25:00.001-07:002016-07-15T11:05:25.852-07:00My book on Etsy<div dir="ltr">
Hi all!<br />
Guess what. I have an Etsy shop: https://www.etsy.com/shop/WoCBooks</div>
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I'm selling signed copies of my book on Etsy now. It's the same price as Amazon plus shipping. I order the books myself from Amazon and have them in stock at my house. Then, when someone buys it, I slap my name on the inside, include a nice message, and send it off to you. If you're getting it for a gift, just leave a note with the person's name and any other message, like a birthday or something.</div>
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I'm so excited to share this with you all. I like having another way of getting my book out there for as many people as possible to enjoy.</div>
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I'm off to bed. Sleepy. Gotta get up early for lots of writing! Almost done with draft 2 of New Witch on Campus!</div>
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~Carey</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-54753721442909187722016-05-09T16:00:00.000-07:002016-05-11T03:56:23.873-07:00I'm Getting Married!!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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This weekend has been a whirlwind! Saturday started out like any other day. I had a rare day off so I was working on my book. Starting the second draft now as I get suggestions from my critique partner. And then I had a lovely double date with my guy and my best friend and her husband.<br />
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During dinner, amid the talking and laughing and good food, my birthday came up. Joe said, "I have an early present for you. Close your eyes." I did. Thinking he would do something snarky because we had just been teasing each other not 10 seconds before. I waited for a minute and then he told me to open my eyes.<br />
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What I saw took my breath away! Before me was a beautiful ring. I had seen it before. It was his grandmother's anniversary ring. I couldn't breathe for a whole minute. My eyes welled with tears as he said, "Carey Ann Catherine, will you marry me?"<br />
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Well, duh! YES! He put the ring on my finger and then came around the table to give me a hug and kiss. I tried so hard not to cry. Robin was bouncing in her seat and she hugged me. "Now you have to come over so we can start planning!" Well, let me get over the shock, first!<br />
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We've been talking for a few months now about getting married. We even have a date in mind. So, this weekend, we have to talk to our pastor about picking a date and then call the caterer so we have it locked down.<br />
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I have to print off a few things today for my binder. I've already been doing that but never hurts to be over prepared.<br />
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Of course, I will be documenting this journey through my blog and my YouTube videos. At this moment, I'm getting my list together for my special treat for my side of the bridal party. They'll be thrilled, I'm sure. Tricky part will be sending one across the country. :-) I think I can manage, though.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-9217021519195658992016-04-26T21:06:00.003-07:002016-04-27T05:31:45.955-07:00Severely need to vent (language warning)In the midst of various headlines circulating in the local and national media outlets, I need to vent. It's come to the point where I can't watch the news or even scroll my Twitter or Facebook feed without seeing something that makes me want to smash my laptop in a Hulk-like rage.<br />
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One that had me screaming was the settlement in a highly publicized local case. A boy was killed by officers after he was seen waving around a realistic looking toy gun. The mother went on a rampage. Blaming the police. Now, don't misunderstand me. My heart goes out to any mother who has to bury her son, especially from a violent act. My uncle was a victim of gun violence. My dad had to fly to California and bring his body home just 2 short months after my grandfather passed. My grandmother had to bury her husband and son within weeks of each other. And, I do not pretend to know the details of this boy's home life. But, something seems amiss to me when he should know better than to be in a public space waving a gun around, toy or not. I know Ohio has conceal-carry laws. But, the key word there is CONCEAL! Don't go to a park and wave it around, frightening people so they call the police! Where was the mom then? Now, she gets $6 million because she couldn't teach her kid common sense? And, she made it sound like the police had it in for her kid. Like, people join the police to earn a free license to kill. My father was a police officer and had a number of friends on the force in various city departments. I know this is not the case. They wouldn't have made it into the academy if they believed this to be true.<br />
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Another story I saw Monday involved a boy of similar age (about 13 or so) involved in a series of robberies and car jackings. A photo of the boy <em>pointing a gun</em> was posted on social media!! The reporter interviewed the father and he was absolutely clueless. <em>He couldn't even tell the reporter what grade his son was in!</em> Acted like it wasn't his business to know what his son did. What kind of parent does that? And, <strong><em>why have kids if you're not going to teach and take care of them?</em></strong><br />
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Now, before I get bombarded by trolls calling me racist, allow me to clarify. I'm not bringing this up because of race. I didn't even mention that when I talked about these situations. It's not a racial thing. It's about an all around disregard for values, morals, and accountability for one's actions. I work in retail. I see a few hundred people a day. It's everywhere. Black, white, yellow, purple, blue. Tall, short, fat, thin. And all religions and cultures. People let their kids run wild in the store. Then, when they get hurt or they hurt someone else or get caught stuffing candy in their pockets, it's "Oh... oops." or "Quit picking on my baby!" The other end of the spectrum is the ridiculously over-protective parents contributing to the increasing number of 20 year old babies. But, that's a rant for another day.<br />
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Maybe it's because I come from a very involved and close-knit family. Former friends would even tease and say my parents fell under that crazy over-protective category. But, I don't see it that way. And, besides, it worked! My sister and I never got into trouble with the law or in school. With the exception of my one and only fight in grade school that was self defense. We had rules instilled in us and we learned the value of sticking to a commitment and living a good life. And, most of all, that actions have consequences you have to face when you fuck up.<br />
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I'll go back to the fight I had in school. I hit a kid with my purse last period of the day. He had several classes with me and had been harassing me all day long. He pushed me to the ground and I retaliated. The principal wouldn't give me the time of day, but believed his crazy story about how I was a complete bitch and had it in for him from day 1. I went home crying, because we were both punished with in-school suspension. (Sit in an old art room... together... all day long doing your classwork. Worst. Day. Of. My. Life... at that point) My dad called the school. Even though I was not at fault, I still broke the rules by hitting the little jerk. And, so, served my punishment. It sucked. My 14 year old brain thought it wasn't fair and I wanted to call in sick. But, it taught me a lesson.<br />
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Again, actions have consequences. Don't study for an exam? You're probably going to flunk. Spill coffee from McDonalds all over your lap? Guess what! That shit's HOT. It says so, like 50 million times on the cup. You're going to get burned. Antagonize the dog next door? Yeah, you get no sympathy from me when he bites your hand. And, the list goes on.<br />
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I mentioned to my best friend that I was working on this post and, referring to the first news story I mentioned, I brought up my opinion on gun control. No, it is not a crime to own a gun, nor should it be. It's one of our Constitutional rights (if you live in the U.S. I know I have a few international readers out there) and I get that. <strong><em>BUT</em></strong> necessary checks and balances need to be in place, along with proper education, to ensure a) some crazy nut job doesn't decide he wants to shoot up a movie theater, b) some poor kid who feels he has no other way can't shoot up his school to stop the bullies from making his life a living hell, c) a little child can't get hold of it, thinking it's a toy and end up shooting, if not themselves, someone else. But, oh. Wait, that would fall under <em>actually</em> being a parent and <em>teaching</em> your children right from wrong. Rather than blaming the world when they end up in jail or, worse, dead. My friend owns guns. They frequent their local range. They bought a BB gun for their 7 and 9 year old kids to use <strong><em>only at the range, under supervision of mom and dad, and locked in a fingerprint safe.</em></strong> And, emphasizing these things are not toys. Even BB guns can be deadly if mishandled. We all laugh at Ralphie from Christmas Story and his "You'll shoot your eye out, kid." But, if you recall, he almost did shoot his eye out. My friend repeats this lesson over and over and will continue as her children grow up. That's taking proper responsibility.<br />
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Another thing we talked about, on this topic of guns, was school shootings. Perhaps we come from a naïve age when we were kids. Perhaps they're covered more because of the constant media saturation we get from... everywhere. But, we never heard of school shooting before Columbine. (9th grade for me) And now, sadly, they're so common place. And, what is one thing they say about many of the shooters? They were bullied in school. Now, I have shared my story numerous time about how I was bullied in school. 6th grade, coming home in tears nearly every day because kids called me "fat," "stupid," "useless," "bitch," and I'm sure there were more names long forgotten. 8th grade, I already mentioned the little creep that pushed me so far I slapped him. High school, I was the slow kid in gym class. My grades were a C average if I studied all night and prayed my heart out. I was the quiet one, so that made me a target. Rumors were spread about my best friend and I being "more than friends," if you get my drift. But, <em>not once</em> did I consider getting a gun and shooting up my school. Why? Because I could talk to my parents. They may have been a tad over protective but that's how parents are <em>supposed to be.</em> Hands on, caring about their children. Making sure they grow to have good values and become productive members of society. If you can't do that, <strong><em>don't have any freaking kids! </em></strong>You'll only be doing more harm to them and then scratching your heads wondering what went wrong.<br />
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There is the other extreme I'll touch on quickly. The parents who smother. Now, my parents were protective, but they still let my sister and I live our lives. We made mistakes. We mishandled our money. (Or, at least I did) We had those bad relationships and heartbreaks. But, you need those lessons in life. You can't have Mom and Dad hovering over you night and day because you won't figure out how to be a grown-up. Something even most adults haven't figured out yet but it's a process and different experiences for everyone. Mom and Dad, sadly, won't be around forever. You have to take charge of your life.<br />
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And, yes, that involves the tough lesson that so many kids have to learn. People can be cruel. You're going to get picked on. People are going to torment you and try to make your lives a living hell for shits and giggles. But, that means there's something wrong with <em>them!</em> I was trying to tell my friend's daughter this a few months back when she was telling me about a boy in school calling her ugly. "He's ignorant and blind because you are a lovely little girl." She shrugged and gave the usual reply I gave my mom so many times. "You're just saying that." "No, I'm not," I said. "I always feel that people who get joy out of making others miserable are miserable themselves. And, the way they make themselves feel superior is bringing others down instead of trying to raise themselves up. If he can't see what a great person you are, it's his loss because he could be missing out on a great friend if he just took the time to get to know you."<br />
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Which leads to another thing I need to grumble about. I'm a tolerant person. I enjoy learning about different religions and cultures. History has always interested me, the good, the bad, and the boring. And, it takes a lot to piss me off. The fact that I'm writing this is an example of the fact that I need to get things off my mind because I'm getting very close to voicing my opinions. And, with my luck, I'll say it to the wrong person who will take it the wrong way and I'll be in trouble. Probably at work. There is a certain public figure on the political scene in this country that makes me so mad. Remember I mentioned a Hulk-like rage? Yeah, he's reason number 1 I can't watch the news anymore. His blatant, ignorant, racist, sexist blabbering scares the daylights out of me! And, I pray I'm not alone. I hope to God above he does not win the election, or even the nomination he's seeking, because we're all in deep shit and I'll be packing my bags for Australia. He is demeaning to... well, anyone who is not a rich white man with bad hair. He doesn't care about family. He's quote in a 2005 interview (<a href="http://www.buzzfeed.com/andrewkaczynski/donald-trump-thinks-men-who-change-diapers-are-acting-like-t?utm_term=.myqnemZ1J" target="_blank">Buzzfeed article here</a> and, yes, if you haven't figured it out, you'll know who I'm talking about. I am on my boyfriend's laptop and I don't think he'd appreciate me destroying it in a fit of temper because this man fills me with so much anger) saying in part, "I won’t do anything to take care of them. I’ll supply funds and she’ll take care of the kids." He wouldn't even push the baby in the stroller on a simple walk down the street! What kind of parent does that? How is that an example for his children? Especially his sons.<br />
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Now, let me give you a situation here. I'll make up a normal(ish) American family. Dad works and is one of the minority who can be a solo provider for his family for whatever reason so Mom stays home, tends house, and takes care of the kids. Seems okay, right? Let's not forget. Being a stay-home mom is a tough, <em>highly</em> underappreciated job. It's not like the "Real Housewives of ---" where an army of nannies take care of the kids while Mommy attends cocktail parties and watches soaps all day. No, when Dad's not home, she's doing mountains of laundry, dishes, just anything to just make the house somewhat presentable should a guest decide to drop by. Siblings fight. I know my sister and I did. My boyfriend and his brother have stories. So, as a parent, you're breaking up those fights and dishing out punishments. There are also the joys of parents. First steps, hearing "Mama" or "Daddy" for the first time. You know what gave me the "I want kids" bug? My friend's daughter was spending the weekend with me. We were in church and she threw her arms around me and gave me the most adoring smile in the world. I thought, "My God. I want to see that look coming from my own kids. That's the best feeling in the world." But, I digress. Back to my scenario here. So, the family is busy. Dad's working and helping Mom run the kids to Scouts, dance, baseball, football, visiting relatives, all that stuff that happens in life with kids. Suddenly, Mom isn't feeling well. She becomes ill. Or, she injures herself. She has to stay in bed for days/weeks on end! Can't afford a nanny with medical expenses piling up. Grandma or Aunt Lucy come help when they can but it's not a 24/7 deal. Guess what? Dad suddenly has to step up. It may mean changing his hours at work or working from home sometimes. Canceling that business trip. And, yes, he'll have to cook/do laundry/yard work/and all that other stuff Mom was doing but can't.<br />
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But, according to... yeah, you figured it out already so I'm still not typing his name... "That's not my thing." Self-centered creep. My dad does most of the cooking. Does that mean he's "acting like a wife," too? No, I think it means he's helping his wife who has to go to work as early as 3 a.m. and is so exhausted she fall asleep as soon as her rear hits the sofa. You know, if all men thought like you, I shudder to think what our world would be like. I'm pretty sure my mom wouldn't have married my dad. Then, my sister and I wouldn't be here and we wouldn't be at the place we are in our lives without hands on parents. Even now, at nearly 32, I know I can call my parents when I need to. Just before Christmas, I called my mom sobbing because my car wouldn't start after work and I was terrified it was something major. She calmed me down, she and Dad drove to my job, they looked it over, and said it was just the battery. Then, they helped me jump it and get it to the shop. If they weren't protective of us, I probably would have died 2 years ago from the blood clot in my leg because I was putting off seeing the doctor. But, my mom woke me up saying, "I called you off work. Make a doctor appointment now or we're just going to the E.R." Hands off dads wouldn't meet their daughters for dinners once a week just to talk and catch up on life amid busy schedules. Hands off dads would probably never notice when their daughters came home crying after their first big heartbreak and feeling like the world shattered around them like a dropped snow globe.<br />
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I could go on. But, my brain is fried and I need to be up early myself to work on my other writing projects before Day Job resumes once more. Looking forward to a long, quiet weekend and, hopefully, continued nice weather.<br />
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I hope my rants and ramblings sparked some thought, if not conversation. I'd love to talk/civilly debate. And, thanks for reading if you made it to the end.<br />
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Good night,<br />
CareyAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11819825585233537333noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6271727361667755894.post-63549135016953125472016-04-25T04:05:00.001-07:002016-04-25T04:05:51.389-07:00A Lost LightWell, today is going to suck. I'm attending a funeral after work for a former coworker. 25 years old, super sweet young man. He was hard working. He always had a smile and a kind word for anyone he met.<br />
I'm going to copy the Facebook post from his sister on the day he died and post it here before I say more:<br />
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<em>Today has been the most devastating day of my life. Today my baby brother died. He was 25. He was a son, a brother, a nurse. He loved to laugh, he loved his pat<span class="text_exposed_show">ients and he loved his family. As great as he was, he fought with a demon inside of him and lost. That demon was addiction. It started many years ago with a back injury ... pills mostly. Then came the anxiety. Xanax and an alcohol chaser. We saw it coming like a freight train. After pleading with him to get help, he finally did. Rehab, for 28 days. We (his family) attended Nar-Anon meetings to help with our own struggles. On Tuesday he came home. He was changed. For the better perhaps, or just different. "Rehab was the best drug education I could have ever gotten." He joked. Little did we know he wasn't kidding. Today, 36 hours after leaving rehab, he died of a heroin overdose. He learned about heroin, in detail, in rehab. It isn't anyone's fault this happened but his own. I'm not angry. He has become just another a statistic.</span></em><br />
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<em> I'm sharing this with you because my brother wasn't your typical "junkie". He was a good kid from a good home. He had a family that loved him and a good job. He had great, caring friends that tried to help him with his depression. He had hopes and dreams of a great future. All of that was taken by addiction. If you know of someone struggling with addiction, please find them help. Their life could depend on it. There are "signs". Don't pretend they aren't there or that your loved one will "get better" on their own. They cannot do it on their own. This is a disease. I cannot recommend Nar-Anon meetings highly enough. Find one if you are worried about a loved one. Go. They can and will help you. Tell your loved one you love them. The heroin on the streets today is mixed with all sorts of deadly crap. It kills. Please do not be ashamed. I was. I will not be anymore. Tim and others like him deserve to be able to stand tall and say "My name is Tim, I'm an addict .... and I need help." Please share this message. I have met some wonderful people during this process. Some have made it through .. some have not. I want others to know .... There is Hope. </em><br />
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<em> To those friends and family that have supported us through this tough time, I cannot express my sincerest "Thank You's" enough. Once his final arraignments have been made, I will pass those along.</em><br />
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When I saw the news of this, I wanted to be physically sick. How could this happen to such a sweet guy? With so many evil people in the world, why do the good ones have to suffer like this? All the questions that one would ask during a time like this. It just goes to show how truly fragile life can be.<br />
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I think Melissa's post says it all so I'm not going to add much more. I'm going to start crying again if I do. I just wanted to share this with you and, if you or anyone you know is going through a problem with addiction, get help. It is possible. And, if you are blessed to have a healthy family, give them an extra hug tonight. Tim's parents shouldn't have to bury their child tonight. But, he will be remembered as a wonderful and rare light in a world full of darkness.</div>
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